Reprogramming The Mind For Success

My youngest of 6 children, David, is now nearly 4 years old. I want to show you a part of a recent letter we received from a GP regarding David, so you can get an idea of what he has:

“David was noted at birth to have a hairy lump at the top of his skull. He had brain imaging at around 1 year of age and this suggested that the lump was an atretic meningocele. It also showed agenesis of the corpus callosum, some abnormal collections of nerve cells in one part of the brain and abnormal position of some of the large brain veins.

David has significant development delay and hypotonia. His general health has been good.

In summary, David has evidence of abnormal neural tube closure (the atretic meningocele) and abnormal brain development (agenesis of the corpus callosum, neuronal heterotopia, abnormal anatomy of the tentorium and abnormal anatomy of large brain veins).”

Now, I did not actually realize how much of an impact such a statement could have on a parent until I received this letter, which is almost 3 years after these initial tests and diagnosis was done. All those words are quite long and scary and would suggest a handicapped child at the very least.

However, I paint a different picture. Although he can not speak the way other 4 year old’s can; although he can not walk quite the same way other 4 year old’s can; for some reason, he still understands me.

For example, even way back before he was two years of age, he fully understood the word ‘no’. To illustrate this, I was watching my wife play netball, and minding David at the same time (this is before David was even two). As there were other kids and plenty of noise, I let him walk around a bit. At any time he got too close to the court, I said ‘no’, and he would simply stop and turn around. After a few times, he learned not to even get too close. A simple example of a child learning something.

At the same time another child who would have at least been 4 if not 5 was uncontrollable. This child was your typical 4 or 5 year old when it came to talking and walking (well, more like running around and screaming), and nothing the parents did or say would stop this child. The child had no respect for the parents, and it was obvious the parents didn’t care about this fact one bit either.

There is no excuse for not giving your child both discipline and love, and I don’t believe you can have one without the other. On the other hand, it can be quite easy for parents with a child who is obviously a lot slower in their development, and has risks of long term neural issues, to be wrapping them up in cotton wool and even throwing things like discipline out the window…but not me, no way! And I’ll tell you why.

Kids need discipline no matter what because not only does help them with structure, guidance, boundaries and building inner strength, it demonstrates something about the parents too. Kids are going to imitate the parents regardless of their learning abilities, and if you are not firm, how on earth can that help them. You are the shining light for your children, the guidance, the god, the highway, the map, the example, the hero, the inspiration, and all parents should realize this.

Our kids need us more than ever right now and it is high time we pulled ourselves out of this dependant mind set and stop blaming the world for our problems. I don’t care if Obama is the saviour, why on earth do we need saving anyway? Because we have become too dependant on others for our well being and we are teaching our children to do the same thing.

I hope this inspires you to rethink the way you look at life if you feel like you need saving.

All the best
Dean

One of the things I explain in my new and upcoming book (current program owners will receive this free as an upgrade) is the organic cycle within us all, the name I give to the process by which we are kept in our comfort zones. I realized how the process was almost a mirror image of the machine.

In summary, the organic cycle involves three main systems, the brain, the body and the senses and how they interact through the use of smaller systems within each of these main three. The machine is the same in that it involves three main systems, the fuel, the mechanical process or purpose and the operations.

If we look at each of the three main systems for people and machines we can draw some interesting parallels.

First of all, we can look at the mechanical purpose of a machine. It doesn’t matter what machine you use, whether it’s a coffee machine or a crane, it has a primary purpose that is mechanical in nature. This mechanical process however must be put in motion by some sort of trigger, whether it is by humans using switches and levers or from senses that sense that a mechanical process needs to be put in motion (i.e. the air conditioner and the thermostat). Then we have the fuel that all machines need in order to run be it electricity, gas, oil etc.

So let’s look at the human being and the organic cycle.

We are almost purely mechanical by nature. That is, we react to things in life with behaviours where the behaviour itself (the reaction) is triggered by the event, and the same events always cause the same reactions. This in itself makes it very hard to deny our mechanical nature. But don’t be alarmed, it is a survival mechanism built into us.

Then we have our senses which we can clearly see are part of the triggering process (although not all of it which you’ll learn shortly). Through our eyes, ears, nose etc, we process the environment and react accordingly.

So the difference here between a coffee machine and us, is simply that a coffee machine has one mechanical process, and we have many, and the coffee machine has switches and we have senses.

So let’s look at the fuel.

Well for us the fuel is emotions. Some may think that motivation and drive etc are the fuel but not from the point of view of organic cycle, it is emotions that fuel the organic cycle, the comfort zone, for emotions are simply chemical reactions involving the brain (the producer) and the body (the receiver), and this completes the organic cycle.

When we curse at someone in traffic (just as an example) we are reacting in a mechanical way to an event picked up through our senses that triggers the emotions to fuel the behaviour, and we do this all day every day.

Now let me go one step deeper. If we return to the machine, the machine only operates for as long as it is needed to operate, and what I ask you determines this? Motivation and drive! Machines are operated for the purpose of creating a benefit to the user, and that is us. Whether it is for the satisfaction of a great cup of coffee or from the profits made from building a skyscraper, it is all the same. There is a benefit to be had and the more a machine is run, the more benefit is being had.

And where is the parallel here for us beings? It is addiction! For our organic cycle, our comfort zone, our personalities, our beliefs, our results in life, our reactions and our behaviours are all motivated by addiction, and the addictions are to our emotions, or to be more precise, the chemicals produced in the brain that create these emotions and hence feelings (the feelings are the product of the body receiving the chemicals).

Now a machine does not become addicted to its fuel, so there the similarity ends, but the operator of the machine has a very real motive, and so do our addictions to our emotions. I said earlier that the senses are only part of the triggering process, because our addictions are a major factor in triggering reactions. For example, someone who always appears irate is subconsciously and constantly seeking events to fuel the addiction to the chemicals produced from being irate. If the senses can’t find it in the immediate environment, the next step is to trigger memories that will do the same job as memories will trigger emotions.

If we want to create a more fulfilling life we have to step back and observe our reactions and see them for what they are, simply addictions. We are running around trying to make a cup of coffee using a crane or a photocopier and it simply will not work. We are using the wrong mechanical processes and emotions in our everyday lives because we are not aware of what is motivating them in the first place. If you want to have an enjoyable day, does it really serve you to curse all and sundry when you stub your toe as soon as you get out of bed?

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To your success

Dean

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One of my daughters has a turtle, and one day while watching her swim around the aquarium, I noticed her want to get out or to go beyond the glass walls. The back glass wall has a picture of green underwater plants, however the picture only takes up some of the wall, and as the turtle reached the edge of the picture, I could sense her desire to go around the edge and beyond, as if the edge of the picture was actually a corner.

It got me thinking about the other animals we have. One of my other daughters has a blue fish; we have a dog and also three chickens. All of these pets live within physical boundaries, from which they can’t really escape. The chickens have the ability to fly out if they really wanted to, and on two occasions one of them has, only to want to get back in to the pen knowing that this is where its food is. Our dog has also had many chances to run away (thanks to kids leaving gates open etc), and every time she has come back.

With all of our pets, it is our duty to keep their needs met, with food, water, a clean environment and tending loving care. I realized that when given the chance, although some of them could leave permanently, their ‘needs’ and the security of always having those needs met, was the main driver behind their actions.

But watching the turtle made me also realize, that we have effectively domesticated what are essentially wild creatures, and regardless of their need for security, there is still that part of them that craves just that little bit more freedom to explore. Wild creatures do not have physical boundaries, only mental ones. In the wild, and I mean complete wild where no human intervention exists, the boundaries of creatures are created by their own instincts, not those of some other force.

It pains me to say this, but we humans are trapped within a mental boundary that is not of an instinctual nature, but of a conditioned need for security. Just as we have conditioned our own pets to accept smaller boundaries in exchange for security, we as humans have accepted a life of mediocrity and monotony in exchange for security and having our needs met.

We do not bump our heads into a glass wall thinking that what we just saw was a corner we could go around; instead we live within a mental boundary that is our comfort zone, and any attempts to move out are met with anxiety, doubt and fear of the unknown, ridicule, and a fear that our security may not be there tomorrow if we venture too far out. There are people who are happy with this, there are those who are not happy but accept it, and there are those who do not accept it. The majority of people are those that are not happy with it, but accept it, not really knowing what it is or why it is this way.

Some people believe that there are people in higher positions of power who control the rest of the population, that they know how to create this mental boundary through education, TV, news, laws and politics. Whether this is true or not is irrelevant, for all you have to do is ask yourself this question. ‘Is my current life based on needs or wants?’ Do you need your job, your TV, the News at 6, the mortgage payment, the car payments, the gossip at work, the arguments, the drugs, the computer games, entertainment and so on? Are many of these needs things you do to escape life, not realizing that they are the reason you are trapped? Are many of these needs the reason why you can’t spare your self the time and motivation to do anything else with your life, to do what you really should be doing to get out of your comfort zone and really live life like the wild, curious, explorer you really are?

There are many reasons why most people will continue to live within this mental conditioned cage because they know no better, the answers to breaking free are not readily available, they fear the unknown, they fear ridicule, they fear losing their security, or they believe these needs are helping them escape reality. For many who may have even been presented with some of the answers, their needs have become all too powerful that they are too time strapped or mentally drained to do anything about it.

All it takes is a small amount of your time a day to explore your own inner and outer world, and as you start to do this you open the door to many things such as opportunity, awareness and knowledge, all of which go hand in hand with freedom, and you find your addictions to your needs and security lose their grip on you and you break free from the confines of the conditioned mental cage.

To your success

Dean

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I read an article today that touched on a few topics that are in my belief system. How often do you hear someone say, “Life suck’s or I hate my job, or I hate him for doing that”. Perhaps you’ve even said it yourself from time to time. This is a classic example of what it takes to have a successful mindset. The reality is, that it’s not the event that suck’s or even the person that you think you hate. It’s your perception of the event and how you wish to see it. How often do you hear people say ” Oh that’s Mike, he’s such a lucky person. Good things always happen to him”. Well the truth of the matter is that Mike is creating his own luck. By having a positive mindset, he can always look for the good in things and this will naturally attract good things. Like attracts like. It’s the Law of Attraction at work on a subconscious level.
Another point to mention is my favourite saying “What you resist persist’s and what you accept change’s”. Let’s face it. We all have a bad day once and a while. Maybe some more than others. But the fact is, it’s how we deal with the situation that makes all the difference. Lets use an example so we can visualize and really understand it.  Lets say we’re a stock market trader. Things are looking good, the share price is on the way up and we’re leaning back in our chairs thinking “Oh yeah”. Then we find the price start’s to go down. We hang on thinking, it’s ok, it will come back up, so we hang on some more. We fight and fight, check our technical analysis, fundamental analysis, indicators and charts trying to pick the turning point. The more we fight, the more we lose and things start to spiral down, down, down. Or, we could have accepted the loss and sold our stocks after the first few days. Allowing us to move on to the next trade and maintain our momentum.
Lets look at another example. Lets say your at the train station and the station master comes over the PA saying ” I’m sorry to inform you but the 6.55am bound for London Paddington is delayed for 1 hour due to maintenance”. The guy next to you loses it, throws his arms up in the air and starts swearing his head off, blaming the National Rail System for being so crap. This thought process then sends out a whole world of negativity and basically spoils the rest of his day.
However, being the mindset master that you are, you look for a positive point of view to focus on.’What do you know, I get an extra hour off work’. You ring the boss, explain what’s happened and cruise through the day. Obviously they are some random examples. But things like this happen every day. What I’m trying to highlight is the fact that the same event can happen to two different people and have very different results. Don’t be at the effect of an event, when you can have the choice to live the life you want. Take this global recession for example, you go down with it or you can step aside and make the choice to do something different. The choice is yours!

“What you resist persists and what you accept changes”.

Yours truly,

Stuart Ginbey

What most people do not realize is that when we become addicted to a drug – be it nicotine, alcohol, caffeine, or heroin – it is our cells that become addicted. A physical addiction. Take away the drug and it’s our cells that are screaming out for more. And here’s the reason why. Our brain releases a chemical called ‘Dopamine’ as a reward for doing something pleasurable, be it sex, eating, winning, etc. When you do something that makes you feel good within yourself, your body is experiencing a rush of dopamine and you get the feeling of being happy. Dopamine is no different from any other artificial chemical or drug.  Take away the habit and your body will respond by doing what is necessary to get it back to it’s comfort zone.
If you attempt to change your eating habits, for example, you are not going to receive your dopamine rush because the foods you were eating before made you feel good where as the new foods do not and this is where the cravings start.

Overcoming a habit be it chemical (cells) or behavioural (neural pathways), requires an understanding of what is going on in your mind and body. The process that is going on was created to keep you alive and comfortable. As soon as you stray from it, you know it.
The good news is that those willing to accept this and work with it – and not against it – will see massive changes in their lives.

Yours sincerely,

Stuart Ginbey

Do you remember that you have a choice as to how you look at your subconscious?
Those that are happy, healthy, successful, fulfilled and balanced in life have that as their
self-image. Those that are unhappy, broke, unfulfilled and live unbalanced lives have this
as their self-image. Your self-image – the picture of you in your mind – is being
created from day one. It is important for you to recognize how you see yourself
within, which means being very honest with yourself! And to take this to another level, think about how it could affect your children. What is their self image and what are their beliefs? It’s important to get this right from an early stage to give them the best opportunity in life.

Yours sincerely,

Stuart Ginbey

So lets look at an example and see how it all works.
Think of a fear that you may have. Lets say it’s ‘Investing in the stockmarket’. Perhaps you gained this fear from a bad experience in the past because you lost some money. Perhaps it’s simply your Self Image that you are not an investor. Either way, you have instilled a belief in your subconscious mind that produces a chemical reaction and produces that fear every time you think about ‘investing in the stock market’.

A series of events occurs.
First, your psycho cybernetic mechanism recognizes that you have created a thought process that is in direct conflict with your beliefs. In other words, you have briefly imagined yourself investing in the stockmarket. Your PCM sees this as a diversion from your usual course and sends a message to your Amygdala. In turn, it releases chemicals into your body, creating feelings of fear, doubt and anxiety.

However, lets say you meet someone who has done quite well from the stockmarket and says that he will help you, but first of all you need to come up with £20,000.

Straight away your first thoughts are going to be of what it would feel like to lose that £20k. Fear and anxiety take over and you hear yourself making excuses as to why you can’t come up with the money. It’s fight or flight and your survival instinct has naturally pulled you away from the situation to protect you and return you to your comfort zone.

Yours sincerely,

Stuart Ginbey

The Psycho-Cybernetic Mechanism (PCM) is our brain’s version of a thermostat. Just like the one found in an airconditioning system, it’s role is to measure the deviation from setpoint and produce an output that will return the temperature back to it’s original settting. Our brain’s PCM is very similar, but it’s not only associated with temperature. It is more concerned with our Comfort Zone and when we find ourselves in an uncomfortable situation, it will trigger a series of events to naturally bring us back to our happy medium. This function actually plays a very important role in our survival. To do this, the PCM employs the role of the Amygdala.

The Amygdala is an almond shaped set of nuclei in the brain. It is most commonly associated with emotions such as fear, anxiety, doubt and depression. This Amygdala is actually the circuit that is triggered by the PCM when it senses you are out of your comfort zone. It releases the chemicals that cause you to feel doubt, fear and anxiety.

Stay tune for part 2 and we’ll find out what this all means.

Yours sincerely,

Stuart Ginbey

Inside our brain stem is a mass known as The Reticular Formation. It is the connection point for the millions of different neural pathways between the various parts of our brain and the rest of our body. This whole system was named ‘The Reticular Activation System (RAS)’ by physiologist H. W. Magoun, who discovered that by stimulating it, he could wake someone from their sleep. Every second, 10-11million bits of information pass through this system and it’s the role of the Reticular Formation to process everything. However, because our conscious mind cannot cope with this much information, it acts as a ‘Filter’, according to our beliefs, habits and self image. Therefore out of all the information the we receive every day, the only parts that will actually make it to our brain is the information that lines up with what we believe. This is why two people can attend the same event yet have completely different memories of the experience.

But the point is this: You have complete control over the way you think!

If you believe that making money is hard; if you believe becoming slim is hard; if you believe finding the right partner is hard; if you believe investing is hard; guess what, it’s going to be hard!
Your neural pathways are only doing their job. They are taking the emotional attachment,  linking it to the action and joining them together. ‘Loose weight’-‘This is hard’ or ‘Start Investing’ – Too hard’. The more you say it, think it, feel it and apply emotions to it, the stronger the neural pathways between these two associations become. Your RAS then picks this up and finds it a priority to use in the filtering process. All of a  sudden you have talked yourself into a bad habit that will be difficult to break. Your brain has an emotional hook associated with what you want to achieve and you will never be able to do it.
Of course, the next question we must ask is, ‘What happens when we contest a belief, raise our own self-image or try and break a habit? Why is that so hard to do?’

Yours sincerely,

Stuart Ginbey

Imagine yourself; quietly sitting somewhere in a nice park, relaxing and watching a stream of ants do their thing, also noticing a sense of urgency in them, the sort of urgency that usually precedes a storm or rain. You watch in wonder, their strength, their knowingness, their loyalty, their co-operation and co-ordination, wondering how on earth such simple creatures create the cohesion they do.

Then you think of how the ability to sense rain or a storm serves such a grand purpose, not only for the ants but for the keen observer too, and in this case, you. If you had been wondering what you were going to do this weekend, the mere observation of the urgent ants will make you think twice about taking the boat out for a spot of fishing, or playing a round of golf with your buddies, or taking the family out for a picnic.

But then you decide to become on of the ants. All of sudden you are in a new world, a world of urgency, order and fear. You must serve the queen and her lava, you must perform your tasks, constantly communicating with other ants; you must be weary of any prey, and then attack anything that stands in your way. Phew! what it must be like to be an ant!

It may not be like that for the ant at all. They just do what they do, and maybe they have no awareness of this way of living for they have nothing to compare it to. But we do, we always have the ability to compare, to assess and to choose based on what we experience.

We all know we are emotional creatures; however what we may not understand is that our emotions serve a purpose, the purpose of allowing us to assess and make decisions based on what we are feeling, but from the observers point of view, not from the point of view of the ant; and this is exactly what most of us are doing. We live our lives, reacting to our emotions from the ants’ point of view and not the observers’ point of view.

To illustrate this, one of my pet emotional reactions is my reaction to arguing children. I don’t mind sharing this with you because I want you to feel as if we are all friends here. When children argue, especially my own, it can raise the hair on my neck! Why, because it is a reaction. At that moment in time I am the ant, thinking I have to defend myself from the noise or hysterics. But in reality, when I am able to distance myself and observe, all I am really experiencing is noise, and although I don’t like it, because it is irritating, I am able to deal with it more calmly and offer solutions.

The key difference here, and this difference can only be determined once someone becomes an observer, is that one is an automatic reaction, and the other is a calculated response. The ant reacts to its stimulus automatically, it never questions for it has no ability to, only doing what it is created to do. Humans on the other hand have the ability to choose a response to a stimulus, but only if they become aware that an emotion has become triggered within them.

Emotions therefore serve a very important purpose for people. They alert us to the fact that something is happening that is offering us a chance to question what is going on, and to choose our response. Much like the observer noticing the urgency in the ants, decides what may be and what may not be an appropriate activity in the next day or two, the person who notices an emotion he or she does not like can choose if the normal reaction is appropriate for all involved; and in most cases, if the normal reaction is automatic, it will not, and a new and more beneficial response can be employed. When this occurs and the person chooses a new and more beneficial response, much against the inner urge to react their normal way, the person would have moved out of their current comfort zone…..and this is called ‘growth’.

To succeed in anything in life you must grow!

To your success

Dean Whittingham

The complete step by step guide to Reprogramming your Mind for Success